Those questions with no satisfactory answer
Saturday December 2, 2006
I always hate it when my sister starts complaining about the way she looks, or asks me whether or not she “looks fat in this”. There are some questions that you can’t answer without causing… problems.
The problem is that if body image is such a huge issue these days and being satisfied with who you are is the ultimate goal, why do I feel like I’m letting people down when I’m not happy with certain aspects of my physical appearance?
Don’t get me wrong, I’m about 90% satisfied with who I am, but I can’t stand it when people see me and think that I shouldn’t be disappointed with my body because I’m not overweight or whatever else.
Gah, don’t mind me. I’m in a bad mood today. It always happens around this time of year when I start thinking about what I want for the coming year. I always want more than I can afford and it gets me down.
Take for example my glasses. I found a pair that I really really really wanted, but I can’t afford them. $870 without the prescription lenses is way too much for me even with my health insurance.
Or tuition. I really want to go back to uni and study for a masters degree in either multimedia or management (yes, two very different worlds) but every year I’ve said I’ll do it, I don’t end up having enough money because I’ve had to spend it on something else (important things such as dental work or car repairs etc, not frivolous things). I hate that I can’t do this.
Sometimes it feels like I work so hard but my life is hollow. I’ve worked so hard at being good and responsible and considerate that I’m not having fun and that I can’t do the things I really want.
Somebody give me balance cos I’m not doing a very good job working it out myself.
Any suggestions?
4.12.06 - Lucas - #
Yeah, life is exspensive, it’s rediciously hard these days to save atleast a decent amount to put aside for college or insurances or maybe an own car/house.
I work 3 jobs to pay everything, I’m only 21. It is insane for a young guy like me to work that hard. But I guess I chose for it.
Suggestions? Well, I just give 150 (euro) monthly to my girlfriend. She will put it aside on her bankaccount. She won’t touch it, neither can I touch it. That way we can save it up for summer vacation. We do that with everything.
I guess, you will need to buy cheaper stuff if you really want to enjoy life.
5.12.06 - Britney - #
Wow, that’s expensive for the glasses. :o
5.12.06 - eunice - #
my tuition is pricey too, and i’m working 2 jobs to cover the bills. i don’t like answering questions like that, about the whole do-i-look-fat gig. i mean, it’s a no win situation.. say yes and they think you’re a bitch, say no and they think you’re a liar. as for suggestions, the most important thing you have to remember is to have fun. i know it sounds cheesy but you just have to remind yourself that everything you have and everything you’re going through is everything you’ve once wanted. chin up, girl!
6.12.06 - Corinne - #
My parents still pay for things, but yea, it’s still expensive. It’s annoying when they raise the cost every year, when the cost of living increases every year as well.
Capitalists.
7.12.06 - Chenoa - #
My grandparents are helping me with tutition for college that the scholarships I got didn’t cover. It is really hard to save money with everything being so expensive.
Have you tried cutting out things that you don’t need? Instead of going out every night for food, cooking instead? Little things like that add up. Putting aside $50 a week or $100 a month (or whatever you can afford) adds up quickly as well.
Good luck.
7.12.06 - tawny - #
yah, i have those feelings too….
gah, it’s expenive living nowadays. =’[
7.12.06 - Brittney - #
People shouldn’t say anything to a person unles sit’s positive we all have insecurities. And wow expensive for glasses!